In terms of personal growth and development. For the most part, I’ve told people to be true to themselves.

In some cases, people doing exactly this means that they show that their real self is an asshole. So for those people, this ends up being bad advice.

so can we just decide that the best advice is “Don’t be a selfish asshole”?

Which brings to my head, isn’t this kind of what the internet did? People could now be as mean and vile as they want with no actual repercussions.

It feels like the self-justification that Addicts use “My drug problem doesn’t hurt anyone, so it’s really not a problem.”