Socrates once said “The only true wisdom, is knowing that you know nothing.”

He also went on how wisdom was gained by your acceptance of your own ignorance. This however, isn’t always what people think of when they say “Ignorance is bliss”. I think we are too ignorant, and people who pretend to know much, often know that they don’t and they feel stupid by it, or for it as it were. But those people don’t take the opportunity to educate themselves are choosing to remain that way. Knowledge is power, and knowledge is freedom. That being said, sometimes ignorance, is just flat out ignorance, and the choice to remain so.

A few weeks ago we were in Utah, took the kids to Liberty park. They always loved that park. My oldest is 14 and is starting to mature and take a huge interest into girls as a whole. While we were there, he took a liking to a couple of boys and a girl. We’re differentiate the boys by their hair color, a blonde, and a black haired boy. The girl who was wearing short shorts and a Bikini top. She barely had what one could call breasts. but they were there, and my son, he noticed. out of the boys the Black haired one seemed to instantly get and understand that he was Special needs, and treated him kindly, the other two treated him like shit. The girl was really mean to him right off the bat, he more or less ignored her and played with the boys. At one point he started to feel rejected and He and I went for a walk.  while we were walking we ran across that group, the girl wasn’t there, it was just the boys. The black haired one called to my son and said hello, and asked if he was going to be back to the park tomorrow. We told him no, we’re from out of town.  10 minutes later, he got called over by this same group. This time that girl was with them. I followed far enough behind to catch a drift of what was going on. They asked him how to spell a name of a color. He didn’t know, he didn’t say he didn’t know, he just flat out didn’t say anything. The girl called him stupid, then stating “See I told you that he was a idiot retard” The blonde laughed and ran off with the girl. The other one stayed standing there confused before he left.

my son was in tears, he just wanted a friend.

we cycled back around and picked up his siblings. In doing so I ran across said girl and her mother, Ignored them both. I met up with Ruth and  started heading out. it took a moment to realize that the girl the boys that she was running around with, and her family were walking in front of us.

Ruth turns to and whispers to me “That’s a girl, with no self esteem and no self worth.”

The girl turned around and yelled “hey you stupid!” (talking to my son) ” I told you to stop following me.”   I turn around and Jaron who has been pretty well disheartened by the events was about 5-7 feet behind us.

My wife and I both responded “We’re NOT following you, we’re leaving the park.” She ignored us and kept yelling at Jaron like he was a lesser being.

to which I added rather angrily “it takes a real big person to make fun of an autistic child, I’d said he was smarter than you at this point”

This scrawny almost non existent 14 year old is girl tried to get into my face stating that she was going “beat me down” I looked at her and said “Seriously?!  Really?! What do you think are you going to do me?”

Her parents came back her dad grabbed her by the neck, her mom asked what happened I explained it. He’s Autistic he doesn’t always understand. she’s making fun of him. I explained the color and the spelling  situation among a few other things that he had informed me off. Just general mistreatment towards him from the girl and the blonde headed boy.  at this point the wrath of both her parents was on her, of which her attention was one of shock, she thought herself to be big and protected by parents. Ruth pointed out that her behavior was her being a bully. this punk kid got angry “You think that’s being a bully?” like she truly didn’t understand what the definition of the word was.  Her parents grabbed her, ignored me entirely and her father figure dragged her off by the scruff of her neck like baby kitten.

Jaron was angry, and upset. I calmed him down as we returned to the car. I tried to explain that just there like their are good adults, and bad adults, there are good kids and bad kids. The blond and the girl, were not good kids. Those are not the kinds of friends he needs, those kinds of friends will hurt him. When we got in the car and started to drive off, Ruth informed me that during the encounter with the girl and her parents, the black haired boy turned to Ruth and apologized for her and the blonde’s behavior.

I was proud of  Jaron of how he handled this, and I have hope for that black haired kid. Among the three of them, I have hope for him.

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